“Grief never really ends but it changes. It’s a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, but the price we pay for love.” – Author Unknown
We understand that attending a weekly support group can feel like going to the gym – you know that you will feel better after going, but can’t always get yourself up and out the door! This weekly grog email allows us to bring the feeling of support to you when you don’t feel like leaving the house, or when time gets away from you.
The first step of truly starting to grieve is to understand what grief is. Of course, we all know that grief is the feeling when you lose someone. Grief is an emotional reaction to change. When we experience the loss of someone, there is never a right thing to say. There are five stages of grief, but we believe that they are never quite experienced “in order.”
People experience grief in different ways and at different speeds. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but we feel it is important to be aware of the stages and to occasionally ask yourself “what stage or stages am I in right now?”
Stage 1 – Denial & Isolation – “This can’t be happening.”
Stage 2 – Anger – “Why is this happening to me?”
Stage 3 – Bargaining – “I will do anything to change this.”
Stage 4 – Depression – “What’s the point of going on after this loss?”
Stage 5 – Acceptance – “I know what happened and I can’t change it. Now I need to cope.”
One of our regular group attendees admits that he occasionally “rides the wave of acceptance” but since grief is an ongoing process, it is not expected that you will stay there indefinitely.
So this week – challenge yourself and ask what stage you are in.
Our Grief Support Group will still be meeting the first Thursday of every month at 7pm at 311 Depot St. Suite F Antioch, IL 60002 for those 21 and up.